Posted on December 28, 2025

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If you've experienced trauma, you know how it can stay with you long after the event has passed. Traumatic memories don't just fade into the background—they can show up as flashbacks, nightmares, anxiety, or a persistent sense of being unsafe in the world. You might find yourself avoiding certain places, people, or situations that remind you of what happened. Or maybe you've noticed that your body reacts to stress in ways that feel out of proportion to what's actually happening in the moment. These are all normal responses to trauma, but they can make daily life feel exhausting and overwhelming.

EMDR therapy—which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing—is a specialized form of therapy designed to help people heal from trauma and distressing life experiences. Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR uses a unique approach that allows your brain to reprocess traumatic memories in a way that reduces their emotional charge and helps you move forward. In my practice, I've seen how powerful this method can be for people who have been struggling with the effects of trauma for months, years, or even decades. If you're wondering whether EMDR might be right for you, understanding how it works and what makes it effective can help you make an informed decision about your healing process.

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Understanding How Trauma Gets Stuck

To understand why EMDR works, it helps to know a bit about how trauma affects your brain. When something traumatic happens, your brain's normal information processing system can become overwhelmed. In everyday life, your brain naturally processes experiences, filing them away as memories that don't cause you ongoing distress. You can think back on difficult moments from your past without feeling like you're reliving them in the present.

But trauma is different. When an experience is too overwhelming, your brain struggles to process it properly. The memory gets stored in a raw, unprocessed form—complete with the sights, sounds, physical sensations, emotions, and negative beliefs you had at the time. This is why traumatic memories can feel so vivid and present, even years later. When something triggers that memory, it's as if your brain pulls up the entire file, and you experience all those same feelings and sensations again. Your rational mind might know that you're safe now, but your body and emotions react as if the trauma is happening in the present moment.

This is where EMDR comes in. The therapy is designed to help your brain finally process these stuck memories, allowing them to be filed away properly so they no longer cause you such intense distress. The goal isn't to make you forget what happened or to minimize your experience—it's to help you remember the event without being overwhelmed by it. You'll still have the memory, but it will feel more like something that happened in the past rather than something that's still happening to you now.

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How EMDR Actually Works

EMDR therapy involves a structured eight-phase process, but the part most people are familiar with is the reprocessing phase, where bilateral stimulation comes into play. Bilateral stimulation means activating both sides of your brain in an alternating pattern. This is most commonly done through guided eye movements, where you follow my hand or a moving light with your eyes while recalling the traumatic memory. But it can also be done through alternating sounds in headphones or through tactile stimulation like tapping.

The process sounds simple, but what's happening in your brain during EMDR is quite complex. The bilateral stimulation appears to activate the same neural mechanisms that occur during REM sleep, when your brain naturally processes the day's experiences and emotions. By pairing this brain state with focused attention on the traumatic memory, EMDR helps your brain reprocess the experience in a way it couldn't before.

During a session, I'll ask you to briefly focus on the traumatic memory while simultaneously engaging in the bilateral stimulation. You don't need to talk through every detail of what happened or spend long periods of time describing your trauma. Instead, you'll notice the memory and any thoughts, feelings, or body sensations that arise, while your brain does the work of reprocessing. After each set of eye movements or taps, we'll pause and you'll share what you're noticing. Most people find that the memory begins to shift—the emotional intensity decreases, new insights emerge, or the memory starts to feel more distant and less threatening.

The reprocessing continues until the memory no longer causes significant distress. We also work on changing negative beliefs you might hold about yourself because of the trauma. For example, if the trauma left you feeling powerless or believing you weren't safe, EMDR helps you develop more adaptive beliefs, like recognizing your current strength or understanding that you can protect yourself now. The entire process is collaborative, and you remain in control. If things feel too intense, we can pause, slow down, or use grounding techniques to help you feel more stable.

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What EMDR Can Help With

While EMDR was originally developed to treat post-traumatic stress disorder, research has shown it's effective for a much wider range of issues. I use EMDR with clients who have experienced single-incident traumas like car accidents, assaults, or natural disasters, as well as those dealing with complex trauma from ongoing childhood abuse, neglect, or other adverse experiences. It's also helpful for people whose trauma doesn't fit the typical definition but still causes significant distress—difficult medical procedures, bullying, humiliating experiences, or losses that continue to impact daily life.

Beyond trauma specifically, EMDR can be beneficial for anxiety disorders, phobias, panic attacks, and depression that stems from past experiences. Some people come to EMDR when other forms of therapy haven't fully resolved their symptoms, or when they feel stuck despite making progress in traditional talk therapy. Because EMDR works differently than conventional approaches, it can sometimes break through barriers that other methods haven't been able to address.

One of the things I appreciate most about EMDR is that it tends to work relatively quickly compared to other trauma therapies. While everyone's timeline is different and depends on the complexity of their trauma, many people notice significant improvement within several sessions. This doesn't mean healing is instant or easy—trauma recovery takes time and courage no matter what approach you use. But EMDR can accelerate the process in a way that feels less overwhelming than spending months or years talking through painful details.

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Is EMDR Right for You?

If you're considering EMDR, you might be wondering whether it's the right fit for your situation. EMDR can be incredibly effective, but it's not the only path to healing, and it's not necessary for everyone. During your initial consultation, we'll talk about your experiences, your current symptoms, and your goals for therapy. I'll help you understand whether EMDR might be beneficial for you, or whether another approach might be a better starting point.

Some people benefit from beginning with other forms of therapy to build coping skills and emotional stability before starting EMDR reprocessing. This is especially true if you're dealing with complex trauma or if your current life circumstances are particularly stressful. EMDR asks you to temporarily focus on difficult memories, so it's important that you have enough resources and stability to handle that process safely. If we decide to wait on EMDR, that doesn't mean it's off the table—it just means we're building the foundation you need to make the reprocessing work more effective when the time is right.

The experience of EMDR varies from person to person. Some people feel immediate relief, while others notice gradual changes over several sessions. You might feel tired after sessions as your brain continues processing, or you might have vivid dreams as your mind works through the material. These are all normal parts of the healing process. Throughout it all, I'll be there to guide you, answer your questions, and make sure you're feeling supported every step of the way.

Healing from trauma is possible, and you don't have to carry the weight of painful memories alone. If you're interested in learning more about EMDR therapy or exploring whether it might be right for you, I'd be happy to talk. You can reach me at (909) 285-2525 or via email to schedule a free consultation. Together, we can find the path forward that feels right for your healing.